Category: Mental wellness
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We’re taught that magic requires spectacle. Grand gestures. Extraordinary circumstances. Mountain peaks and ocean sunsets and once-in-a-lifetime experiences. We’re told to chase wonder, to seek awe, to manufacture moments worth remembering. And in doing so, we often walk right past the quiet miracles unfolding in every ordinary moment, waiting to be noticed. The truth is,…
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Spring arrives and suddenly you’re meant to clean everything. Wardrobes, cupboards, the shed you haven’t opened in three years. We’re told that clearing physical clutter creates mental clarity, that fresh starts require empty spaces, that you can’t welcome the new without releasing the old. And whilst there’s some truth to this—physical environments do affect our…
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You want to be known. You crave it, even. The fantasy of someone truly seeing you—all of you—and choosing to stay anyway. Someone you don’t have to perform for, explain yourself to, or hide from. Someone who knows the worst parts of you and loves you not despite them but including them. This is what…
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There’s a part of you that you’re deeply ashamed of. The one you work hardest to hide. The version of yourself that emerges when you’re at your worst—petty, defensive, needy, controlling, avoidant, whatever your particular flavour of “not okay” looks like. You know this part intimately because you spend so much energy making sure no…
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You don’t need to quit your job, leave your relationship, or move to Bali to choose yourself. You don’t need a dramatic gesture, a clean break, or a fresh start. Those might come eventually. But transformation—real, lasting transformation—doesn’t usually begin with burning your life down. It begins with something much smaller. Much quieter. Much easier…
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Nobody writes Instagram posts about taking their medication on time for the 473rd day in a row. There are no viral TikToks about going to therapy even when you feel fine. No one’s winning awards for getting eight hours of sleep, eating regular meals, and maintaining boundaries with people who drain them. Mental health breakthroughs…
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I’ve spent a fair amount of time critiquing wellness culture—the toxic positivity, the spiritual bypassing, the tendency to turn self-care into another form of self-improvement that leaves us feeling inadequate. And those critiques are necessary. But here’s what I don’t want to lose in the process: wellness culture, at its best, has introduced genuinely transformative…
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You want to be better now. Not in six months. Not next year. Now. You’ve done the work—you’ve gone to therapy, read the books, tried the practices. You’ve sat with the discomfort, done the shadow work, faced the difficult truths. Surely that should be enough. Surely you should be healed by now. But healing doesn’t…
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Someone says something that triggers you. Before you even register what’s happening, you’ve already reacted—snapped back, shut down, walked away, said something you’ll regret. The words are out of your mouth before you’ve had a chance to think. The damage is done before you’ve even chosen to do it. This is what happens when we…
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There’s a reason distillation requires heat. You can’t separate saltwater into something drinkable by simply wishing it so, or thinking positive thoughts about it, or even understanding intellectually how the process works. You have to apply heat. You have to let the water boil. You have to endure the temperature that makes the transformation possible.…