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There’s a paradox at the heart of being human: we drink deeply from life, seeking to satisfy our deepest thirsts, only to find ourselves wanting more. We chase success, relationships, achievements, experiences—gulping down saltwater that promises to quench us but leaves us parched. The more we consume, the thirstier we become. This is saltwater. But…
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We’re taught that magic requires spectacle. Grand gestures. Extraordinary circumstances. Mountain peaks and ocean sunsets and once-in-a-lifetime experiences. We’re told to chase wonder, to seek awe, to manufacture moments worth remembering. And in doing so, we often walk right past the quiet miracles unfolding in every ordinary moment, waiting to be noticed. The truth is,…
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Spring arrives and suddenly you’re meant to clean everything. Wardrobes, cupboards, the shed you haven’t opened in three years. We’re told that clearing physical clutter creates mental clarity, that fresh starts require empty spaces, that you can’t welcome the new without releasing the old. And whilst there’s some truth to this—physical environments do affect our…
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You’ve learned to pray without believing in God. You’ve discovered that speaking into the void—to the universe, to yourself, to the mystery—accomplishes something, even when you’re not sure anyone’s receiving the message. But now you’re faced with the next question, the harder question: after you speak, what do you listen for? And when something seems…
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You want to be known. You crave it, even. The fantasy of someone truly seeing you—all of you—and choosing to stay anyway. Someone you don’t have to perform for, explain yourself to, or hide from. Someone who knows the worst parts of you and loves you not despite them but including them. This is what…
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You don’t pray. You left that behind with religion, if you ever had religion to leave. Prayer is what believers do—addressing a deity, making requests, expressing gratitude to something they think is listening. And you don’t believe anyone’s listening. You don’t believe in anyone to listen. So prayer, by definition, isn’t for you. Except. Sometimes…
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There’s a part of you that you’re deeply ashamed of. The one you work hardest to hide. The version of yourself that emerges when you’re at your worst—petty, defensive, needy, controlling, avoidant, whatever your particular flavour of “not okay” looks like. You know this part intimately because you spend so much energy making sure no…
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You don’t believe in God. Or gods. Or the universe as a conscious entity. Or manifesting. Or astrology, chakras, crystal healing, or any of the things that typically fall under the umbrella of “spirituality.” You’ve left religion behind—if you were ever part of one—and you’re comfortable with that. You don’t need supernatural explanations for natural…
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You don’t need to quit your job, leave your relationship, or move to Bali to choose yourself. You don’t need a dramatic gesture, a clean break, or a fresh start. Those might come eventually. But transformation—real, lasting transformation—doesn’t usually begin with burning your life down. It begins with something much smaller. Much quieter. Much easier…
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Nobody writes Instagram posts about taking their medication on time for the 473rd day in a row. There are no viral TikToks about going to therapy even when you feel fine. No one’s winning awards for getting eight hours of sleep, eating regular meals, and maintaining boundaries with people who drain them. Mental health breakthroughs…
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I’ve spent a fair amount of time critiquing wellness culture—the toxic positivity, the spiritual bypassing, the tendency to turn self-care into another form of self-improvement that leaves us feeling inadequate. And those critiques are necessary. But here’s what I don’t want to lose in the process: wellness culture, at its best, has introduced genuinely transformative…